2016: Equality, punishment, children, politics and bullies. Clarification.

These my thoughts on some of the political issues I believe to be critical in the next year and beyond.

There's much more detail out there than I can indicate here, and I am attempting to reveal a thread that I think is the backbone of the system of hierarchical violence, and thus crucial to it's continuation, and therefore a vulnerability to be leveraged.

Equality? Feminism?

The issue needs clarification.

'Equality' means what exactly?

How does it stand for a single mother on low income?

How does it stand for a young muslim teen, facing 'terrorism'?

How does it stand for a refugee?

How does it stand for a child? An elder? A disabled person?

How does it stand for a civilian caught in the cross fire of war?

As it stands, it seems that for official feminism, that it means 'behaving the same as the men doing the job, and getting the same pay'. And the argument is about the pay scale, rather than what the job itself is and what it's effects are.

Which is all about conformity, rather than diversity. The job is protected. It WILL get done.

Feminism, at root, is about the fact that any embodied wisdom and experience of being a woman in the current dominant cultural setting is set aside in matters of Governance, social organisation, spirituality, economics and power.

Implicit in that is access the embodied wisdom and experience of being a man in the current dominant cultural setting is also limited, controlled, determined by 'social mores' which are artifacts rather than biological absolutes.

Love is a biological absolute, for us humans and many other species.... Power is a operational absolute for those who Rule.

Good governance is another matter.

We need to understand the distinction.

Name the behaviour. Name the outcome.

Punishment, spanking and violence.

It's all about adult power, powerlessness and displaced anger.

The adults submit to a violent hierarchy and lose something of the soul, and this hurts, and hurt that remains unresolved often turns to anger, and in time to rage. It is not safe to vent that anger at authority, so it leaks out. Irritations that lead to outbursts of violence.

It has to be justified, or else the question arises : 'Why am I SO angry?' and that exposes the individual to his or her deep sense of loss, though they have to see through the rage first to get to that. So not an easy ask. That’s quite a lot of stress for many, many people.

As if in compensation millions of people read and consume the Daily Mail, The Guardian, watch the TV, vote for 'traditional democracy', get a mortgage and repeat what little they have been spun from all of that as 'news', but the sense of safety is tenuous.

There is a process whereby children are the recipients of parents neuroses, which is largely unwitting, inn intended, and this then is further complicated and obscured by the effects of sophisticated marketing and propaganda, which targets those unresolved emotions, enervating them, deliberately, and people wonder why some children experience difficulties? Or become adults with serious issues?

And factor in if a child grows up in a war zone, or a place of constant violence? What kind of future is that experience preparing the child for?

And that is what it comes down to with slapping and any violence by adults perpetrated against children. It has a purpose, an outcome that is valued by those Institutions which exercise power over populations, and which all to readily stoop to violence to maintain and project their power.

And it’s all 100% avoidable. There is nothing inevitable about the levels of violence we are seeing throughout the dominant culture.

There is hope because the sciences are clear on this.

 

Saudi Arabia and the UN Commission on Human Rights.

A State that is operating a lethal punitive code that is determined by Wahhabist Religious ideology, and which undermines all concepts of Human Rights Legislation and is unquestionably cruel and barbaric CANNOT participate as a leader in a Human Rights Forum without undermining the basis of that forum.

Obviously!

Likewise a state that is prosecuting a lethal war that is determined by Economic and political ideology, and which undermines all concepts of Human Rights Legislation and is unquestionably cruel and barbaric CANNOT participate as a leader in a Human Rights Forum without undermining the basis of that forum. Which excludes The UK, the USA and others…

 

Bullies and Liberation.

When confronting any bully the narrative is the harm they are causing and how to stop it, nothing else matters.

Once that is done, then the finer details can be worked on

What the bully wears, believes in or justifies is irrelevant.

It's not a conspiracy theory to say that those who 'traditionally ' hold power do all they can to retain, enhance and project that power and that they need our money to do that.

 

Good Question!

So we are taught that "love of money is the root of all evil."

I wondered why?

And this is what I came up with.

Because the money is all about the power - without the money, OUR MONEY, they could not do what they do.

Their pretensions to power would be impossible with the money.

Better that a vast majority of people believe in the greed as a motivator, than become aware of the kind of human psychology that seeks power above all else, and is willing to use extreme violence, that is grooming us for our compliance, which power needs.

The issue is power vs healthy relationships that nurture.

And here’s my take on aspects of where the urge to power emerges…..

Examine any issue and there is where we find the core of the matter.

Kindest regards

Corneilius

Do what you love, it's Your Gift to Universe

Abuse and Resolution: an Urgent Question of Maturity

"The abused abuser is no defence - just a devious way of getting a lighter sentence. It is no excuse. "

I hear this often, and feel that more needs to be said or written on this.... as a Survivor,  I am absolutely focussed on prevention...

If we want to prevent abuse, we have to understand how and why it emerges. Otherwise we end up dealing with abuse AFTER a child has been abused, which is way too late....

There are writers, researchers and scientist/pratictioners who have outlined the dynamics of abuse and trauma (PTSD patterns) and the context of natural child development being disrupted very well, such as Alice Miller, James Prescott, John Bowlby, Gabor Maté , Marshal Rosenberg, Vincent Feletti, David Chamberlain, and others.

The basic theme is this : certain biologically mandated experiences and processes are necessary for the development of caring self empathy (sense of self) and caring empathy for others. these biological processes start with the child-mother bonding process, in the womb, at birth, infancy and toddlership... if these mandates are disrupted across a society, then statistically we see a massive increase in abuse, distress, psychological dysfunction.

In the research there is observed a direct relationship between the degree of disruption of the child-mother bonding processes and the degree of violence, hierarchy, religiosity, territorialism and abuse.

All of theses are further complicated by Trauma Events, such as war, poverty, racism, sexism, religion, climactic events esp. where there is no healing/recovery mechanisms and people are forced to cope with the situation.... the coping mechanism is appropriate in the midst of a trauma event, yet it becomes toxic if maintained after the event, if the trauma response becomes chronic... as we see in intergenerational trauma patterning, where the adverse affects of the trauma are passed down through the generations and are expressed even in a situation where the original trauma is but a dim memory, a story of legend or history..

The chronic stress associated with Hierarchically Violent Societies is profoundly damaging, even if the people within it become adjusted to it....

In order to prevent future abuse, it is necessary to support parents in ways that enable the child-mother bonding to be recognised and responded to with support.

It's also necessary to challenge all Government support for War (Trauma),

It follows that it's also necessary to challenge the status of Religious and State Indoctrination,

It becomes obvious that we need to alter State Education so that it becomes a forum for nurturing self empathy, autonomy and response ability (at core, Education needs to be democratised so the children take responsibility and are supported in developing that sense of responsibility, not through sanctions and bullying, but through respect and example...) and that it helps prepare children for becoming effective, nurturing parents as well as preparing them for a life of work...

It's also necessary to LISTEN to Survivors, for their insights are amongst the deepest in this area... as is their motivation to challenge abuse wherever it occurs.

Too often, 'normal' folk shy away from Survivors insights, from the darkness of their experiences at the hands of abusers, and this tends to lend weight to those who HYPE the issue, who contort the issue in ways that make it less likely to be resolved as part of a political ploy.

'Normal' folk also tend to have such a strong reaction and with it a desire to harm abusers, to punish them, which has nothing to do with the Survivors needs, nor the work needed to ensure prevention - it's usually an unconscious reaction of avoidance... it's easier to think of the abuser as someone to abuse (punish, kill, etc etc) than it is to face the pain, terror, harm and shame a Survivor has lived through and walk with the Survivor as a companion in their recovery.... and to then seek to understand how the abuser became the abuser and seek ways to prevent further emergences as best as possible.

If we are not focussed on prevention, then abuse will continue. Punishment is applied only to those few, and it is a minority, who get caught or are exposed.

Punishment satisfies a public's immature demand for justice and abandons all future children to potential predation as a hidden cost. This is unacceptable, morally and intellectually.

It's long past time for the discourse on abuse to mature, for those concerned with this issue to step up to the plate and confront it with clarity, commitment, maturity and grace.

I also think that abusers neurological 'wiring' and behaviour emerges out of their experience - they were not conceived with this in place. There is some evidence that certain kinds of trauma in utero and birth and infancy can alter a persons neurology in ways that if not recognised, and therefore modulated or attended to, can become the basis for the developing psychopathy.

In all cases of abuse perpetrated by an adult, we have to face the fact that the adult abuser has CHOSEN to abuse, that there is an element of volition and that this brings with it accountability, before those they have victimised and the community at large and that this accountability and consequences cannot be softened by our awareness.

Our awareness is about PREVENTION, about spotting the signs early on and modulating those children who show signs of psychopathy, of instituting a deeper society wide awareness of the need and basis for empathic parenting and empathic governance - they go together... this awarness is not to be taken to soften the consequences of those who have abused others, to excuse them.




Kindest regards

Corneilius

Do what you love, it's Your Gift to Universe