The Roots of Violence in child rearing : for your own good
Alice Miller in her book 'The Roots of Violence in child rearing : for your own good' laid out a clear warning that the kinds of misogynistic, racist, xenophobic politics we are seeing emerge would be inevitable, if society did not confront the way trauma impacts parenting.
What is it? (Alice Miller Interview)
Humiliations, blows, slaps, deception, sexual exploitation, mockery, neglect, etc. are forms of abuse because they harm a child’s integrity and dignity, even if the effects are not immediately visible. It is in adulthood that the child who was once abused will begin to suffer from it and make others suffer. This is not just a family problem, but a problem for all of society because the victims of this dynamic of violence, transformed into perpetrators, take revenge on entire nations, as shown by the increasingly frequent genocides under atrocious dictatorships like that of Hitler. Beaten children learn violence very early on, which they will use as adults while believing what they were told: that they deserved the punishments and were beaten “out of love.” They don’t know that, in reality, the only reason for the punishments they endured was due to the fact that their parents suffered and learned violence very early on without questioning it. In their turn, they hit their children without thinking they are doing them harm.
This is how society’s ignorance remains so strong and how parents, in good faith, continue to produce harm in each generation for millennia. Almost all children are hit when they start walking and touching objects that shouldn’t be touched. This happens exactly at the age when the human brain is structuring itself (between 0 and 3 years). At that point, the child should learn kindness and love from their role models, but never, under any circumstances, violence and lies (such as: “I hit you for your own good and out of love”). Fortunately, there are some abused children who receive love and protection from “caring witnesses” in their surroundings.
https://www.naturalchild.org/articles/alice_miller/roots_violence.html - Alice Miller review
"I describe pictures of people, use histories of them as mirrors. And then many come and say, `This is exactly what I felt all my life but couldn't say.' I don't want to be a guru. I don't want people to believe me. I only encourage them to take their own experience seriously."
Alice Miller's stories portray abused and silenced children who later become destructive to themselves and to others. Adolf Hitler, says Miller, was such a child. Constantly mistreated by his father, emotionally abandoned by his mother, he learned only cruelty; he learned to be obedient and to accept daily punishments with unquestioning compliance. After years, he took revenge. As an adult he once said, "It gives us a very special, secret pleasure to see how unaware people are of what is really happening to them."
Miller, famed throughout Europe, wrote of Hitler's childhood in For Your Own Good: Hidden Cruelty in Child-Rearing and The Roots of Violence. In the same work she lets Christiane F. tell her own story: "I had trouble telling the letters H and Kapart One evening my mother was taking great pains to explain the difference to me. I could scarcely pay attention to what she was saying because I noticed my father getting more and more furious. I always knew what was going to happen. He went out and got the hand broom and gave me a trouncing. Now I was supposed to tell the difference between H, and K. Of course by that time I didn't know anything anymore, so I got another licking and was sent to bed." Christiane went into the street and became a drug addict.
"We do not need books about psychology in order to learn to respect our children," Miller says. "What we need is a total revision of the methods of child rearing and our traditional view about it.
The way we were treated as small children is the way we treat ourselves the rest of our lives: with cruelty or with tenderness and protection. We often impose our most agonizing suffering upon ourselves and, later, on our children."
Indoctrination is a weapon
Zionism's secret weapon is indoctrination. The Christian Nationalist secret weapon (Jesus Camps) is indoctrination. The Colonial Project in North America and Canada were fuelled by Calvinist Ideological indoctrination, Manifest Destiny.. The Indian Residential Schools were designed to indoctrinate the young children of the Native population - 'kill the Indian to save the man'.
Cognitive Warfare carried out on-line through micro targeting emotional vulnerability is part of this, it is designed to weaponise targets. Cognitive Warfare includes forms of indoctrination that target people who present symptoms of emotional immaturity and insecurity.
These are all abusive practices.
Miller called this the instrumentalisation of children’s minds and bodies to become adult weapons of the systems of hierarchy and dominance. Traumatisation is inextricably entwined in this practice in that it always undermines meeting the emotional psychological and moral needs of the children for their healthy development.
Judith Herman in ’Trauma and Recovery’ wrote that ‘the study of psychological trauma is an inherently political enterprise because it calls attention to the experience of oppressed people.’
https://beyondthetemple.com/wp-content/uploads/2018/04/herman_trauma-and-recovery-1.pdf
In my analysis the Western Industrial Cult(ure) of Wealth-as-Power I have written about this arena of malign societal influence and I state here, once again, that Wealth-as-Power can only exist and persist if exploitation of entire populations is sustained.
Capitalism /Industrialism is a cult, a belief system that deliberately and consistently deploys layers of violence to maintain its dominance. The core belief is that some are entitled, due to innate superiority, to exploit others.
This is because exploitation is inherently unjust and causes harm. This generates distant and resistance. That resistance has to be controlled, by crushing it or dividing the population, and the curation of bigotry is a key method deployed.
Wealth-as-Power cult(ure)s present the same dynamic psychologies as an abusive family system.
In much the same way as a parent might punish a child with physical violence whilst asserting 'this is for your own good' they seem to believe that they are entitled to do so, that it is the best thing for all concerned.
As a pattern of behaviour such punishment is more about the adults unconscious need to vent their own unresolved rage at their own parents, directed ar the vulnerable child, as a scapegoat, a dynamic that they can never admit without losing their sense of power, because to admit to their vulnerability, their unmet needs is to drop their shield, it is to eschew that sense of entitled power.
Palestine Action are not Terrorists.
So too with the 'terrorism' charges laid at the people who actively oppose and protest the Genocide in Gaza. The Indian residential Schools of Canada and North America resonate with this dynamic, institutionalised.
Western liberals do not admit to this insight, and thus they never connect openly the curation of bigotry by the ruling class of Industrialism as a weapon system as a subject of critical analysis and honest discussion and therefore as something to actively counter.
Farage is not just a nasty man.
They speak of bigotry as primarily a personal flaw, a quality of 'nasty people' rather than a weapon deployed by known actors that must be collectively countered. And so they approve of affirmative action and DEI without getting to the root of the problem - its deliberately curation by Wealth-as-Power elites as a weapon of societal division. Farage is a 'nasty' person, not a weapon of the Industrialist Ruling Class.
The indoctrination of children, be it direct or indirect, be it by habituation or acculturation, is a core component of the systems of oppression.
The careful grooming of vulnerable adults is also part of this.
The manosphere of 'Traditional Male Values' are part of this. Andrew Tate targets insecure young boys. Jordan Peterson targets boomer demographic insecure adult men. Russel Brand targets Millenails. All are proven grifters.
Ideological grooming via cognitive warfare is part of this.
Indoctrination is fundamentally an act of psychological abuse, and should be understood as a criminal enterprise.
Zionism
The Palestinians are not radicalised - they are simply put, standing on their own ground, the land they have inhabited for hundreds of generations, thousands of years.
They know this is their home, that the water, soil and air of Palestine is their bodies. They know they have an inherent right to self determination. They knew this under the Ottomans, The Romans and every other Empire that stood upon them.
The European Colonial project of Zionism is the problem.
Sir Ronald Storrs said that the Zionist enclave was to be 'a loyal little Jewish Ulster in a sea of potentially hostile Arabism'.
His meaning was that as the new Empire dominating the region, having taken over from the hated Ottomans, the threat of Arab speaking peoples seeking self determination through political, social, economic and multi-cultural solidarity posed a threat to the commercial interests of the Empire, and that potential had to be dissolved, dissuaded, crushed and prevented from emerging.
The British and French drew new borders, to split populations across language groups and other affinities, they installed monarchies and dictatorships, who they armed and funded, often training their leadership in Oxford and Sandhurst, as allies or vassals, to keep political power and agency away from the general population.
They created the Plantation of Zionism in the exact same pattern as the Plantation of Ireland under Cromwell, whose calling card was 'to Connaught or to Hell' - the Irish native population and landowners were pushed westwards, or they'd be slaughtered. and slaughter them they did, with religious zeal, a zeal they passed to their children to sustain hundreds of years of colonial oppression and exploitation.
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