Showing posts with label teenagers. Show all posts
Showing posts with label teenagers. Show all posts

The Generation Gap. Mind the Gap. It's a bridge back to nature.

Adults!

Are you tired of dealing with surly, uncooperative, sarcastic young people whose attitude has everything to do with not being accepted as seen, as valid, as complete and whole, unless they conform to the values of others, whose example and behaviour is not necessarily seen as being worthy of much respect, through they might love the person, the parent, they cannot mask what they see.

And it has to do with a masked and subconscious parental jealousy of the emerged young adults potential for freedom, a freedom many parents mortgaged, a freedom which voting and working atrophied, a wound not of their own making, for it is intergenerational. 

If it is not really talked about, the hurt is great indeed.

Generation after generation..... the trickle down effect.

They were told it was the 'right' thing to do. So they did it, in good faith, and the system betrayed them.Most unfortunately do not realise what they have been put through. Their identification with the system had penetrated too deep, and self empathy is replaced with fear or certainty.

Generation after generation..... the trickle down effect.

I have learned to accept it all, not fatalistically, but in order to observe, and to see then what happens, and perhaps sense how the resolution might be nurtured, within myself. This has taken some time. I was listening to me as I was, when others were not, and remembering. And connecting that to the fact that my life experience certainly left me wounded, and lacking self empathy and so it must be for so many others, just as intensely as I experienced it, and for many much worse indeed.

The least measure of a life of all measures, is the intensity of self loathing, (which is really the introjected loathing of society for the natural child, and the degree one has internalised that so deeply determines to some degree the intensity of it's external expression). Yet it is crucial in all power relationships.

We need to listen to our children, we need to get used to living lighter, on less cash, and understand the immense benefit of the experience of being present, with much more time to be, and to be with the children, more than at work. To be with life, more than with the 'economy'.

Parents and children need more free time together, and we need it across the generations, to help recover from this intergenerational re-traumatisation, be it from the adverse affects of hierarchical power structures behaviour, or laterally,  amongst us as people ..... we must see the setting into which we were born and have now to deal with.

Power Relationships vs Empathic Relationships?



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for decades, elsewhere .........

Of course, it has to be said, this applies across all generations .... the same dynamic occurs when a gap is perceived and 'us' and 'them' becomes the sense of the generations, rather than it being perceived and felt as a continuum - a healthy functioning empathic family, community or group.




Kindest regards

Corneilius

Do what you love, it's Your Gift to Universe

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"The Case Against Adolescence," that teens are far more competent than we assume,"

Really fine article on the way in which childhood was purposefully 'extended' as part of the Industrial Revolution at the same time that JP Morgan, Carnegie and others pushed the Compulsory State Education (conditioning/training program for factory life, dumbing down and control of future populations as they expand) and how that translates today into the previously unknown 'generation gap', teen rebellion and consumerism.

http://www.psychologytoday.com/articles/200703/trashing-teens

Here's a few pertinent quotes just to whet yer appetite!

" In every mammalian species, immediately upon reaching puberty, animals function as adults, often having offspring. We call our offspring "children" well past puberty. The trend started a hundred years ago and now extends childhood well into the 20s. The age at which Americans reach adulthood is increasing—30 is the new 20—and most Americans now believe a person isn't an adult until age 26. 

The whole culture collaborates in artificially extending childhood, primarily through the school system and restrictions on labor. The two systems evolved together in the late 19th-century; the advocates of compulsory-education laws also pushed for child-labor laws, restricting the ways young people could work, in part to protect them from the abuses of the new factories. The juvenile justice system came into being at the same time. All of these systems isolate teens from adults, often in problematic ways."

Which ties into what I have been saying for some time : that all creatures have innate learning abilities that enable them to master their being within the habitat. Only in Industrial Societies are children deemed unable to learn and therefore require enforced 'tuition'...

Schooling was inspired by the Hindi Rote System of conditioning or 'teaching', brought over to England and adapted to the needs of the factory owners, at the same time that the enclosure acts took the bulk of the common land from the people. Thus forcing them into the factories to 'work' to get cash to buy food....

It was an Anglican Military Chaplain who first observed and understood how this system worked. His name was Andrew Bell.

"“The entire purpose of the Hindu Schooling was to preserve the class system.”" A direct quote.....

What Andrew Bell saw and understood in the early 1800s was that by gathering the children into large groups, where they had to learn drills by rote, where corporal punishment was widely used, where there was a number of powerful external imperatives to show that one had learned, (could repeat the scriptures, perform the rituals, read the texts, and today pass the 'exams' ....) the Hindi Caste system had created a solid state and class structure that had endured for thousands of years, and had resisted the British in spite of the British technological superiority in sea faring and in warfare.


"Imagine what it would feel like—or think back to what it felt like—when your body and mind are telling you you're an adult while the adults around you keep insisting you're a child. This infantilization makes many young people angry or depressed, with their distress carrying over into their families and contributing to our high divorce rate. It's hard to keep a marriage together when there is constant conflict with teens."

There's the fundmental of the generation gap/teen rebellion. In one paragraph.

I could go on, but I think you should read the entire article as it is so well written, and 'twould be rude to re-publish it here.... and the research you do to follow up this will be more useful to you than anything I could say or write... trust me!

The recent attempt by Ed Balls, and Mr. Badman, to taint homeschooling with the brush of paedophilia resulted in the largest ever submissions of petitions by MPs in the House of Commons to reject Badmans assertions.

This shows the power of relatively few people (50,000 families home school in the UK at present) whose minds are clear, who refuse the conditioning of their children by strangers, who trust their childrens abilities as learners, when they get going.. A nation of such like would NEVER have allowed Tony Blair to prosecute the Afghan and Iraq wars, privatise the NHS and Post Office, etc etc... would never allow their children to be trained as profession killers.

These are the kinds of people any nation would be proud of.

One of the reasons the media focuses on 'teen knife crime' is to keep the teens under control, to keep the adult wortd fearful and envious of our youth.


Kindest regards

Corneilius

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Lost Generations

We hear so much in the media these days about how teenagers are apathetic, selfish, rude, arrogant.

The reality is that most teens are well aware of whats going on around them, and pretty angry with the adults for the mess they are creating. Teens are generally intelligent people, they care deeply about their own future, and you will find that lots of them are working in many many ways to deal with the issues.

So why this negativity towards teenagers?

Divide and rule..

Here's one answer to that tactic .....







Kindest regards

Corneilius

Do what you love, it's your gift to universe



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