International Men's Day - a proposal for the root or base of healthy masculinity.

Nurture is our bio-logical default, is key to any sustained and healthy human culture.

So what does it mean to be a man?

Or rather, what aspect of being male as in being a person in a male spectrum body, without referring to external value systems, is real and optimally healthy. In part this is a question for each of us, because the answers must come from our interior, the internal who we are part, the baby/person before conditioning started. The other part is ensuring the cultural space for 'male' is reflecting optimal human healthy behaviour, that integrates the diversity of our interiors, that holds space for all our variety.

For me revisioning what it is to be a healthy male on #InternationalMensDay suggests a need to confront the oppressive characteristics the culture tends towards as essentialist when laying out what a man is, and how a man 'should' or 'should not' behave to fit that image. 

I sense a need for this task everywhere - I think we need to do it accurately, it must be evidence based and I think we need to approach it with good heart, determined to create cultural and social and material space for nurture mutual aid, rather than dominance competition as the core gender root.

#Feminism

#Masculinism

My definition : we see and understand the violent hierarchy cult and we see it's inequity and we will, holding hands with one another, as men and women, work together to confront that inequity and correct it, thus bringing human culture into a healthy balance as we move forwards, and thus dismantling those obsolescent oppressive cultural conditionings. We, as responsible adult men call up for this movement emerging from within the humane population, the ordinary, decent, kind community minded folk, to act together and to behave in ways that generate genuine equity and lasting justice because we know that peace is more than the absence of war. Peace is the presence of social material and cultural safety and equity for all, everywhere.

#love

Here's a good place to start from - our beginnings

What Babies Want

#honesty #learning #natural

We are evolved to learn through playful co-operation void of judgement, reward or punishment. my song about learning.

The Culture of Violent Hierarchy trickles down and afflicts us all, from conception onwards. Men and Women alike. It is not healthy and it certainly does not have to be the way it is, even if the task of confronting this looks immense the status quo is not inevitable. I have had enough (of the bully cult).

Kindest regards

Corneilius

"Do what you love, it is your gift to universe."

2016: Equality, punishment, children, politics and bullies. Clarification.

These my thoughts on some of the political issues I believe to be critical in the next year and beyond.

There's much more detail out there than I can indicate here, and I am attempting to reveal a thread that I think is the backbone of the system of hierarchical violence, and thus crucial to it's continuation, and therefore a vulnerability to be leveraged.

Equality? Feminism?

The issue needs clarification.

'Equality' means what exactly?

How does it stand for a single mother on low income?

How does it stand for a young muslim teen, facing 'terrorism'?

How does it stand for a refugee?

How does it stand for a child? An elder? A disabled person?

How does it stand for a civilian caught in the cross fire of war?

As it stands, it seems that for official feminism, that it means 'behaving the same as the men doing the job, and getting the same pay'. And the argument is about the pay scale, rather than what the job itself is and what it's effects are.

Which is all about conformity, rather than diversity. The job is protected. It WILL get done.

Feminism, at root, is about the fact that any embodied wisdom and experience of being a woman in the current dominant cultural setting is set aside in matters of Governance, social organisation, spirituality, economics and power.

Implicit in that is access the embodied wisdom and experience of being a man in the current dominant cultural setting is also limited, controlled, determined by 'social mores' which are artifacts rather than biological absolutes.

Love is a biological absolute, for us humans and many other species.... Power is a operational absolute for those who Rule.

Good governance is another matter.

We need to understand the distinction.

Name the behaviour. Name the outcome.

Punishment, spanking and violence.

It's all about adult power, powerlessness and displaced anger.

The adults submit to a violent hierarchy and lose something of the soul, and this hurts, and hurt that remains unresolved often turns to anger, and in time to rage. It is not safe to vent that anger at authority, so it leaks out. Irritations that lead to outbursts of violence.

It has to be justified, or else the question arises : 'Why am I SO angry?' and that exposes the individual to his or her deep sense of loss, though they have to see through the rage first to get to that. So not an easy ask. That’s quite a lot of stress for many, many people.

As if in compensation millions of people read and consume the Daily Mail, The Guardian, watch the TV, vote for 'traditional democracy', get a mortgage and repeat what little they have been spun from all of that as 'news', but the sense of safety is tenuous.

There is a process whereby children are the recipients of parents neuroses, which is largely unwitting, inn intended, and this then is further complicated and obscured by the effects of sophisticated marketing and propaganda, which targets those unresolved emotions, enervating them, deliberately, and people wonder why some children experience difficulties? Or become adults with serious issues?

And factor in if a child grows up in a war zone, or a place of constant violence? What kind of future is that experience preparing the child for?

And that is what it comes down to with slapping and any violence by adults perpetrated against children. It has a purpose, an outcome that is valued by those Institutions which exercise power over populations, and which all to readily stoop to violence to maintain and project their power.

And it’s all 100% avoidable. There is nothing inevitable about the levels of violence we are seeing throughout the dominant culture.

There is hope because the sciences are clear on this.

 

Saudi Arabia and the UN Commission on Human Rights.

A State that is operating a lethal punitive code that is determined by Wahhabist Religious ideology, and which undermines all concepts of Human Rights Legislation and is unquestionably cruel and barbaric CANNOT participate as a leader in a Human Rights Forum without undermining the basis of that forum.

Obviously!

Likewise a state that is prosecuting a lethal war that is determined by Economic and political ideology, and which undermines all concepts of Human Rights Legislation and is unquestionably cruel and barbaric CANNOT participate as a leader in a Human Rights Forum without undermining the basis of that forum. Which excludes The UK, the USA and others…

 

Bullies and Liberation.

When confronting any bully the narrative is the harm they are causing and how to stop it, nothing else matters.

Once that is done, then the finer details can be worked on

What the bully wears, believes in or justifies is irrelevant.

It's not a conspiracy theory to say that those who 'traditionally ' hold power do all they can to retain, enhance and project that power and that they need our money to do that.

 

Good Question!

So we are taught that "love of money is the root of all evil."

I wondered why?

And this is what I came up with.

Because the money is all about the power - without the money, OUR MONEY, they could not do what they do.

Their pretensions to power would be impossible with the money.

Better that a vast majority of people believe in the greed as a motivator, than become aware of the kind of human psychology that seeks power above all else, and is willing to use extreme violence, that is grooming us for our compliance, which power needs.

The issue is power vs healthy relationships that nurture.

And here’s my take on aspects of where the urge to power emerges…..

Examine any issue and there is where we find the core of the matter.

Kindest regards

Corneilius

Do what you love, it's Your Gift to Universe