The grooming (gaslighting) of human vulnerabilities is one of the vilest things people can do to each other.
Image - i am aware of the spelling error on neighbours, and I can't be arsed, it is as it is, lol. soz.
I sometimes use and abuse the labels commonly applied to describe current events.I created ConTheory as a precise variation of conspiracy theory.
The thing is a con, and it's theoretical in the sense of purely imaginative make believe.
That's the point.
Protocols of Zion is a conTheory.
Masturbation makes you blind is a conTheory.
The Bible is a massive conTheory.
Free speech is not a social permission to lie. manipulate, gaslight or deflect, evade or avoid accountability - such activity should be jumped on as soon as someone opens their mouth with it or publishes such content with such intent. Like immediately.
However it takes healthy emotional intelligence and a robust sense of self to do that.
If anyone ever tries to manipulate, gaslight or deflect, evade or avoid accountability to me my learned response is immediate - How dare you! - That is the correct first response, the second is to move away. Permanently. There's little point in explaining exactly what the other person is doing, because they already know.
There is some utility in marking out the tactic, the technique when the behaviour is happening in a public forum. That may help some other folk avoid the trap, and it might work as an act of loving education - one does need to know what one is talking about and be relatively impervious to being deliberately triggered by the defence mechanisms that will be deployed in reaction to your challenge.
I had to learn the hard way, as I grew up being bullied and groomed, and I became a bully, and consequently reaching mental breakdown 20 years later - I had to be ruthlessly honest, there was no alternative, if I wanted to recover.
For me there is only one group, and that is the human species as a part of Earths biota. The Species is not a cult. There are many cultures within the species.
I sing my song 'We are all Family' and I quote every nation listed in the UN.
The divisions of Nations are all manufactured. There are no Irish Foetuses distinguishable from Lithuanian Foetuses.
Left vs Right is manufactured, all institutional religions and cults are entirely manufactured. None of these are naturally emergent.
Bullies have to groom to any population they bully. It's a behaviour pattern well studied by the bullies - how to 'persuade', how to indoctrinate, how and who to trigger to disrupt honest discourse.
I can feel when bullies operate in part because I feel the old dynamics within me still, as a memory, like a immune memory. I bristle and then I want to dig in and root what ever is there. That's when I start to apply my mind to the problem. Feel, then think. An embodied response followed by a focused mind examining the situation.
Reading as a mindful practice is a discipline that is not part of the educational curriculum - they teach us to read to be able to repeat what we have read, we are never taught to subject it to a well informed, tested critical analysis - were any student to do that, they would have to leave the building in utter disgust at the hierarch, inherent in current schooling dynamics.
I have been involved in a number of cults during my first 35 years of life.
I am currently spending a few days going over every cult I have been hooked into...
The issue of psychological wounding and vulnerability is core to this dynamic.
The followers are not the main problem, though their behaviour may become a serious problem.
Hence my renewed desire to avoid dehumanisation as a reaction to the activities of cult members.
I read Alice Millers book on Nazi Germany's cult, rooted in the behavioural dynamic of cultural childhood adversity, in 1986, in which she pointed out that the attractions of Leaders is similar to the patterns of addiction, adult criminal behaviour and child sexual exploitation.
She warned of everything that is occurring today in the USA and elsewhere..
It's a very challenging book, and it has taken a long time to integrate her knowledge, and there are many miles ahead, some steep hills to climb.
Be kind out there, avoid dehumanisation.
Kindest regards
Corneilius
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