Kindness. Sharing some food.
I would like to see a news channel reflect that kindness that happens everywhere, in each country, a 24 hour rolling kindnesses being presented as they are. That would be encouraging. .
Kindness.
Listening and hearing,
Comfort and acceptance.
Help offered, without cost.
Our truly ancient ancestral past has been as egalitarian or partnership human communities, in diverse forms of many, many highly functional social organisation of culture, from nomad to dweller, from gatherer to gardener with many mixes in between, on land, on plains, in forests, on mountains, on ice and on the waters
The human species is is superbly evolved for egalitarian behaviour.
Bullying is unkind, and quite obviously dysfunctional. We are not evolved to be bullied or to be bullies. Bullying is a sign of dysfunction, a distortion of what it means to be human and humanised.
There is a void between the Conquest Culture and the Partnership Culture.
Egalitarian peoples do not bully. No one is biologically evolved to be bullied. No one is bio-logically evolved to be a bully. We are evolved to be kind, co-operative, intelligent, well balanced psychologically, grounded and practical, curious and creative by learning by experience from adults who demonstrate those skills and qualities.
Robert Sapolsky :
“The brain is heavily influenced by genes. But from birth through young adulthood, the part of the human brain that most defines us (frontal cortex) is less a product of the genes with which you started life than of what life has thrown at you. Because it is the least constrained by genes and most sculpted by experience. This must be so, to be the supremely complex social species that we are. Ironically, it seems that the genetic program of human brain development has evolved to, as much as possible, free the frontal cortext from genes.”
The ancient and evolved genetics, the neurobiology of attachment and emotional self regulation describes the biological space where human kindness is an ordinary learned behaviour, nothing remarkable, and is grounded in direct experience. Direct experience as Allan Schore puts it is the brain to brain dynamic, functioning through the body and the whole sensory experience, between mother and infant, carer and child, between siblings and throughout the family and community.
I think the evidence is quite clear that we humans, as a species, are social, co-operative family structure egalitarian by evolution, and it is because we learn by being vulnerable and sensitive and exploratory that we are also vulnerable to harms caused by being bullied, and that is why healthy trustful parenting is central to adults behaviour within egalitarian cultures.
Work enables healthy parenting in that it is kept brief as possible, so that there is plenty time to be relaxed, to be creative, and so the children grow up, feeling trusted, around healthy relaxed happy adults, whom they can then model without losing their individual sense of self and place.
"News of The Kind"
"Kind News"
"The Daily Kindness"
Kindness o'clock.
The decision to be kind is perhaps one of the least energy demanding changes anyone of us can make.
It is just a decision, after all.
The decision to be kind is one decision from which flows a series of other decisions, actions with outcomes, and the need for constant reflection, because the context within which the kindness will be done will contain questions, problems to resolve.
Kindness is taking everything into consideration, without favour or bias.
Kindness would be the News Press and Media and Government making it clear, in the most humane interest of the people of the nation that there are 11 million adults in the UK with one chronic disease condition, of which 3.8 million are struck with two or more conditions, and there are 1.3 million children who have one or more chronic disease conditions.
So that is about 4 million people for whom the risk posed by the Corona Virus (sarscov2) is quite significant. Lacking a vaccine or preventative medicine, those 4 million people can only be protected by never, ever meeting the virus.
Stop the spread, Spread the Love. Kindness. Care Homes ought to be the very essence of kindness.
Unclear COVID19 regulations, misinformation and evasion of responsibility combine to usher in
'accidental cruelties' that are not addressed.
Listening this afternoon to Sheelagh Fogarty on LBC in the UK, the stories of people's experiences around Care Homes amidst this slow spread policy. People told stories about their elder parents and relatives and these were gut wrenching, one after the other. Detail after detail missed. Pain, trauma, confusion, terror and anger are being caused by Government policy because it is inadequate and impervious to all calls for help, for paying attention to the detail.
The detail matters.
How to enable visitation in safe ways, so that the isolated do not become alienated and lonely, so that they continue to feel loved an d cared for as persons?
It is unkind that Government practice is to not challenge the spreaders of misinformation, to not lay out the clear evidence-led needs that the epidemic demands., It is unkinder still then fail to provide for the needs whilst shovelling billions to inexperienced friends, acquaintances and business associates.
Every effort must be taken to care kindly.
DNR notices are a bureaucratic unkindness.
Let this one die. That is more cruel than unkind.
Generic DNRs are cruel. Economic Efficiency dressed up as kindness. Fordism.
That assessment is indicative of the pertinent facts.
Who holds power?
How do they deploy it?
For whose benefit?
Where does responsibility rest?
Looking at the chronic disease profile of the UK population, where 19% present with two or more chronic diseases, 19% of the population at risk is not just 'some people are at risk' is it?
Using language to mask the truth.
Detail in Kindness.
The detail is so important because life is truly intimate for each of us, the lived experience is equally intense for each and everyone of us and for that lived detail to be blotted out by a caricature that is publicly disseminated is, to my mind and heart, fundamentally abusive.
One cannot blot out the detail of a person, or the detail, complex as it is, of hundreds of millions of persons, just to make a point.
Well, yes people do, and it is seriously unkind. It is pathologically cruel. The imposition of a falsehood blots out the human personhood.
'Immigrants'.
It's also living in a dark fantasy dystopian delusion, and completely out of touch with the social material reality of ordinary people, the 7 billion or more of my brothers and sisters born into this.
We are not caricatures, generalisations, stereotypes.
We are people. We mostly do kindness.
Community Transmission.
When the virus is travelling in the community, and the community is not tight, it will find it's way into the vulnerable population. Thus achieving zero community transmission with really effective treatment of any outbreaks or clusters is the most logical, efficacious and proven approach. Yes, it was easier, for example in New Zealand, earlier on, and the UK missed that boat, yet it is also true that it is not too late to start, now.
We are nowhere near mythical 'herd immunity'.
Vaccines are a distant horizon, not an assured future with a clear timetable. Work is ongoing, and will continue for some time.
5 million lovely people who are at severe risk, with potential adverse health repercussions for another 8 million people. And the unlucky healthy who might contract the full disease, and the long-covid sequalae.
So much detail.
Kindness.
We are learning as we go.
So yes, given that 21% of UK population is way, way more persons, real people than 'some people get ill from CoVid19' that is why we must act with caution.
Government/State and everyone else ought to be supporting zero community transmission, and quarantine borders, for the duration. We know it can work, and save lives, help communities, businesses and economies work through the epidemic, safely.
Kindly, of course.
This is no time to panic.
Be Calm, the posters urge us.
That is I think that why zero community transmission practice (especially because we know it can work without year long shutdowns) is necessary - start now, why not?
Kindness is honesty and transparency.
I was quite ill with COVDI19, and was fortunate enough to recover. It did frighten me to be that ill, that uncertain. I stayed home, took Vitamin C and D, lots of ginger and lemon, fluids, steam baths, soups etc and I rested and I let the fever run it's course, I lost two stone in 5 weeks, and stayed mostly in bed. I tried to be as kind as I could to myself.
Bugger the bills! They can wait!
If I am not here, they won't be paid!
Wearing a mask seemed like a small effort to help reduce the spread, and as I studied the East Asian countries response, the Chinese errors and how they responded and corrected them, how different governments engaged with the people to stop uncontrolled community transmission i was reassured somewhat.
Kindness, if it is present, is ever present including throughout individual moods, temperament or feelings. Of course we go through moods of grumpy, out of sorts, depressed, angry, sad, teary-ness.
The kindness never goes away.
Kindness could be a culture.
Kindness is Political.
Kindness is de-militarisation.
Kindness is abolishing poverty.
Kindness is ensuring unfettered access to clean water, secure habitation, clean environment, regenerative agriculture, local food security for all our peoples, and environmentally for all others.
Kindness is supporting parents with their babies, infants, toddlers and young children by affirming healthy attachment bonding and emotional development - the community looks after everyone who is a carer, so that are cared for, those who are vulnerable are never unduly stressed. Their condition is already enough to bear. That is kindness.
Kindness is making products that last a generation, kindness is making products that can also be fully recycled or re-used at end of use-life.
Kindness is repairing land that has been poisoned, degraded, destroyed - finally paying those costs the accountants 'externalised' during the last two centuries of industrialised production and profit gouging.
Kindness is creating regenerative, nurturing work that I want to do because I can see the benefit in immediate, short and long term perspectives and I know this work supports all life, and within it all human community. There is much healthy work to be done. I would happily work the food forests of a permaculture project. I would happily assist in cleaning damaged lands. What would you do?
Kindness is abolishing structural poverty and ceasing warfare at the same time, turning the war budget into a regeneration budget, as a gift to future generations.
I think that is a first step in any 'revolution'.
Remove the whip. Stop the fight.
No more wars.
Kindness is paying close attention to disagreements of opinion and fact between friends and associates that become weaponised - our friendships are more important than our opinions, especially about matters very few of us can directly affect. I get we feel the world we are in, all of us, intensely. All of us.
What to do, to chill?
How do I ease the pressure I feel when I am triggered?
The price of wheat is beyond your remit. Neither of us can anything about the price of wheat.
The starting and ending of wars is beyond my remit. No one I know has been able to stop a war.
Stopping money laundering is not something a few of us could knock up in a weekend workshop and a media campaign.
True, a well organised political grass roots of working and middle class communities in solidarity could shift the balance of power. It has been done before.
Distraction.
Micro-targeting aka Hearts and Minds, psychology as a weapons system.
Everyone online leaves a trace of their activity - we are broadcasting and receiving and everything is logged, measured, banked.
Online is an advertising media world, drawing attention to content around which advertisements are embedded.
A bit like rodents and their urine, we make trails we re-use, we leave traces. These trails are also data points. Data points are what marketeers aim at.
I like images of kittens, I like guns and own three, I drive a Ford, I live at a certain address, my income is median range, I like America, UK and Australia and I am suspicious of Russia, China, India, I eat meat, I wear chino's, I react to images, I get angry in on line chats, I leave the computer on for 24 hours every day, I commute, I shop at Walmart, I use credit card and a debit card, I have a mortgage on a property worth £500,000, I have blue eye, blonde hair, I wear contact lenses, I like reggae but not folk, I did an online course, and so on.... thousands of data points that can be used to sell at me. Everyone leaves a trail to be examined and exploited. Because PR marketing is exploitative to it's core.
Micro-targeting is marketeers aiming at your data point or a whole series of data points. A cat on the scent of a particular rat. Or a 'tribe' of rats.
What the Cambridge Analytica story revealed was the precision of the techniques, the scope and the adverse effect of the billionaire funded 'industrial political whispering-bullshit-in-someones-ear-at-the-party-to-start-some-shit-we-can-exploit' where 'ear-at-the-party' is our online experience and what we unwittingly expose ourselves to by revealing all this information.
This psychological industrial warfare has expanded over the last 6 years and is some respects has become automated, and it is is widespread. That behaviour, in any setting, is abuse.
Hyper-normalisation.
Any family with someone behaving like that has to take action.
So too a culture, or a country. If that level of personal manipulation is being weaponised as a political trigger, and nobody in the legislature or judiciary is moving to stop that then we can say that Democracy is null and void for the duration. Democracy if it exists, is transparent. Lacking transparency, it becomes a toxic mime, where we have no real power to make changes in our legislatures that would prevent abuse and exploitation.
Yes, whispering in the ears of millions of people, knowing they are triggering peoples fears, frightening and angering these people deliberately so that they can exploit the reaction-addiction is abuse. That's what marketing and news marketing and media marketing and religious marketing do, and it is all cruelty for profit and power. Unkindness.
To deliberately undermine kindness in the community is cruelty.
Unkindness.
Bullies in power are adept at finding ways through story and narrative to stimulate a persons hormone stasis. Mood control.
"Immigrants!"
This repeat activity then is used to alter behaviour over time through inviting the target to 'debate', to engage, and then feeding contest that suggests 'argument', tweaking the content, refining it, followed by material that draws in other supporters to generate Social Hatred Opposition Conflict Kink, us/them polarisation, all fueled with verbal and visual fight or flight triggering, with most of the targeted, and those who 'oppose' them, all entirely unaware this is happening all around them.
Like someone's in the room stirring the shit in everybody's ears, and it's working, good friends are getting cross at each other, and not wanting to spend time together... not good.
It's been used in digital marketing for ages to increase traffic. The Internet of Beefs.
Weaponised and industrialised as a political tool.
Kindness is deciding to act, remembering that context.
Kindness is deciding it's ok to turn down the noise, balance up the signal.
So remember 11 million adults, 1.3 million children within the UK are vulnerable, and we all need to look after them, the way they would if we were in need.
Kindness is indeed political.
Kindest regards
Corneilius
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