If I have a personal feeling or sense of identification towards a
celebrity, a flag, a state, a company or any other entity that is
presented to me for consumption, then I have probably been
successfully groomed.
"The grooming (gaslighting) of human vulnerability is one of most vile things any human being can do to another."
These are all internalised values - referring to the fact that the values originate from outside us, and we take them in, we integrate them to such extent, largely through habituation, that they become part of who we sense ourselves to be.
No more Heroes.
No more Saints.
Organised Religion, and Hierarchies of Power, Violence and Wealth are all grooming experts.
They have to be.
Bullies retain dominance by violence or deceit, by creating artificial power disparities, and exploiting them.
Grooming Gangsters.
Corneilius
"Do what you love, it's Your Gift to Universe"
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"The grooming (gaslighting) of human vulnerability is one of most vile things any human being can do to another."
These are all internalised values - referring to the fact that the values originate from outside us, and we take them in, we integrate them to such extent, largely through habituation, that they become part of who we sense ourselves to be.
No more Heroes.
No more Saints.
Organised Religion, and Hierarchies of Power, Violence and Wealth are all grooming experts.
They have to be.
Bullies retain dominance by violence or deceit, by creating artificial power disparities, and exploiting them.
Grooming Gangsters.
Brexit and the recent US Elections were both adept well resourced grooming exercises
where evidence was routinely ignored on all sides, and people were
deliberately triggered on both sides, on all sides, in order to exploit the people's emotional reactions for political advantage.
Gammon vs Traitor, Boomer vs Millennial, Alpha Male vs Feminazi, Alt-Right vs Leftie, Capitalist vs Communist.... we all fell for it, didn't we? We used these terms in our conversations, and spat them out as petty hatreds that allowed us to vent our frustrations at our political impotence.
Healthy human beings do not do this, nor do healthy egalitarian cultures do 'celebrity.'
Lady Gaga speaking for Hilary Clinton. Really?
It was a performance, an epic moment of careful grooming.
I thought and felt that it was utterly appalling. I felt that it was ugly behaviour being normalised because few were willing to call it ugly.
Internalisation.
It might be a difficult thing to do, it was for me, to separate and remove these internalisation's that become part of one's sense of self, but I know this - they are undermining my true self, my emergent self and they are not healthy.
As a good friend put it, "Identity pegged to the pathology of an illusion."
All dehumanisation is based on grooming. All grooming is dehumanised.
All celebrity likewise.
The existence of the British Monarchy is a prime example of grooming strategies utilised by a power structure.
Take a good look at why the Parliament brought the Monarchy back. (To unite the nation.... to give the ordinary folk, who were in much distress, something to rally behind, to shut them up) or refer back to Magna Carta and the reasons behind the deal made, which both sides abrogated as soon as they could, for very different reasons. Magna Carta had nothing to do with the rights of ordinary humans.
The King as a necessary uniting device.
"For God, King and Country."
How many millions have gone to their deaths, and worse, have participated in slaughter of innocents, with that call reverberating in their minds?
This kind of institutional grooming enables the few to gather the resources of the many, and then claim they are somehow better than then many (because they have hoodwinked them with violence and craft) and so ought hold that wealth to themselves, no matter what the cost to the majority.
The New Age.
New Age Grooming - take the concept of a personal 'spirit animal', for example.
Who claims a slug as theirs, or a rat, or a pigeon or any of the common animals in urban areas? The animals we live with?
Who?
Spirit Animals in animist cultures were about the animals those people lived with, animals they observed, animals the knew well, and the idea of spirit animal as part of their understanding of those animals and themselves in that situation. Totally inappropriate to the urban dweller in the industrial civilisation.
Useless, other than as an entertainment.
And people make lots of money out of it.
"Everything happens for a reason!"
Exploitation. But let's not mention that, let's pretend it is The Universe moving in mysterious ways. God. Learning to live with abuse drives people out of their minds, their hearts, their souls.
It is also a distraction from the issues, personal and communal, that we face.
That distraction is essential to avoid the awareness of exploitation.
Infatuation, 'pulling', seduction, any gift that has an expectation of an outcome, any lobbyists bribe, the ethics of predatory sex, pick up merchants, etc ... all grooming.
Grooming is one of the core dynamics of this 'civilisation' - those who refuse are murdered in their millions.
Grooming is a behaviour pattern known only in hierarchically violent societies.
Grooming gangsters.
The vast majority of pre-conquest cultures that were/are egalitarian hold the autonomy of the person/spirit to be utterly sacred.
They saw and understood that living organisms are all autonomous - they grow their own way.
They understood that they could hunt and eat, but not interfere with their lives apart from that, without causing serious damage to that species and to their own sustainability.
No healthy society hunts prey to extinction, neither do natural predators.
If it does happen there is always a chronic stressor interjecting.
Always.
Most were gardeners, then gatherers, then hunters. In that order, which is logical
You know your world, You see plants and seeds and you assist that to assure food supply, the rest is working with the seasons.
The image of the savage wild hunter, the alpha male 'ug ug' man competing for position, with females seeking the best competitor is also a culturally dishonest narrative, a mater of grooming, there is no reliable evidence for that assumption.
Grooming is targeting known vulnerabilities to enable exploitation.
Trump excelled in this election in that regard.
So too Nigel Farage.
Jimmy Savile. Cyril Smith. Tens of thousands of clerics.
Media advertising geared to what is called 'aspirational marketing' where the message is if you buy this you will be cool, or if you don't you won't.
Grooming.
The objection to the marketing we see every day in the Tube system is a genuine concern. Is your body 'beach ready'?
Seduction and Education : role reversals in an Institutional setting.
The original meaning of the word seduction is to 'lead away from'... Trump seduced millions. Farage seduced Millions. Blair seduced millions.
In an ironic contrast 'educare' the root of 'Education' means 'to be present at the birth of', as in the role of a good mid wife.
The healthy midwife does not alter the child's psyche. Education, when it is compulsory, totally alters the child's psyche. It is a seduction.
It is a seduction, bur with coercion behind it. Reward, sanction, test, failure.
Alice Miller noticed that there was no commandment, amongst the ten that Christianity acclaims, which directed folk to honour the child. A serious omission indeed, and this omission is at the heart of the issues we are dealing with.
To honour the child, one must never break the child's boundaries or usurp his or her true self and autonomy.
"All is born of woman, no harm shall come to the children."
The entire structure of hierarchical power rests on the breaking of these lines, those boundaries as a normative.
Austerity cuts are hitting Women and Children across the world, as people are being groomed to accept it as necessary, by dehumanising the vulnerable, lying about the outcomes and dismissing the evidence.
This too is grooming.
ALL WAR IS CHILD ABUSE - all child abuse is war.
Examine the grooming of the British people who did not want to go to war in WWI, or the American people either for that matter.
Examine the grooming in Hitler's Germany, observe it in Japan at the same time.
Colin Powell with a vial of white powder, an authority shouting 'Boogie Man!"
We who are serious about contributing to the welfare of all our contemporaries and all our descendants must get to grips with this, at the personal, institutional and collective levels. Rapidly.
We will only find the truths in this by ruthlessly honest reflection. It cannot be explained in ways that replace it being experienced.
Our attachments and unresolved insecurities will block that.
So don't be too hard or harsh on ourselves, let us take the time to go deep, as we take action.
It is a life's work.
It is good work.
It is love in action.
And so it goes.
Kindest regardsGammon vs Traitor, Boomer vs Millennial, Alpha Male vs Feminazi, Alt-Right vs Leftie, Capitalist vs Communist.... we all fell for it, didn't we? We used these terms in our conversations, and spat them out as petty hatreds that allowed us to vent our frustrations at our political impotence.
Healthy human beings do not do this, nor do healthy egalitarian cultures do 'celebrity.'
Lady Gaga speaking for Hilary Clinton. Really?
It was a performance, an epic moment of careful grooming.
I thought and felt that it was utterly appalling. I felt that it was ugly behaviour being normalised because few were willing to call it ugly.
Internalisation.
It might be a difficult thing to do, it was for me, to separate and remove these internalisation's that become part of one's sense of self, but I know this - they are undermining my true self, my emergent self and they are not healthy.
As a good friend put it, "Identity pegged to the pathology of an illusion."
All dehumanisation is based on grooming. All grooming is dehumanised.
All celebrity likewise.
The existence of the British Monarchy is a prime example of grooming strategies utilised by a power structure.
Take a good look at why the Parliament brought the Monarchy back. (To unite the nation.... to give the ordinary folk, who were in much distress, something to rally behind, to shut them up) or refer back to Magna Carta and the reasons behind the deal made, which both sides abrogated as soon as they could, for very different reasons. Magna Carta had nothing to do with the rights of ordinary humans.
The King as a necessary uniting device.
"For God, King and Country."
How many millions have gone to their deaths, and worse, have participated in slaughter of innocents, with that call reverberating in their minds?
This kind of institutional grooming enables the few to gather the resources of the many, and then claim they are somehow better than then many (because they have hoodwinked them with violence and craft) and so ought hold that wealth to themselves, no matter what the cost to the majority.
The New Age.
New Age Grooming - take the concept of a personal 'spirit animal', for example.
Who claims a slug as theirs, or a rat, or a pigeon or any of the common animals in urban areas? The animals we live with?
Who?
Spirit Animals in animist cultures were about the animals those people lived with, animals they observed, animals the knew well, and the idea of spirit animal as part of their understanding of those animals and themselves in that situation. Totally inappropriate to the urban dweller in the industrial civilisation.
Useless, other than as an entertainment.
And people make lots of money out of it.
"Everything happens for a reason!"
Exploitation. But let's not mention that, let's pretend it is The Universe moving in mysterious ways. God. Learning to live with abuse drives people out of their minds, their hearts, their souls.
It is also a distraction from the issues, personal and communal, that we face.
That distraction is essential to avoid the awareness of exploitation.
Infatuation, 'pulling', seduction, any gift that has an expectation of an outcome, any lobbyists bribe, the ethics of predatory sex, pick up merchants, etc ... all grooming.
Grooming is one of the core dynamics of this 'civilisation' - those who refuse are murdered in their millions.
Grooming is a behaviour pattern known only in hierarchically violent societies.
Grooming gangsters.
The vast majority of pre-conquest cultures that were/are egalitarian hold the autonomy of the person/spirit to be utterly sacred.
They saw and understood that living organisms are all autonomous - they grow their own way.
They understood that they could hunt and eat, but not interfere with their lives apart from that, without causing serious damage to that species and to their own sustainability.
No healthy society hunts prey to extinction, neither do natural predators.
If it does happen there is always a chronic stressor interjecting.
Always.
Most were gardeners, then gatherers, then hunters. In that order, which is logical
You know your world, You see plants and seeds and you assist that to assure food supply, the rest is working with the seasons.
The image of the savage wild hunter, the alpha male 'ug ug' man competing for position, with females seeking the best competitor is also a culturally dishonest narrative, a mater of grooming, there is no reliable evidence for that assumption.
Grooming is targeting known vulnerabilities to enable exploitation.
Trump excelled in this election in that regard.
So too Nigel Farage.
Jimmy Savile. Cyril Smith. Tens of thousands of clerics.
Media advertising geared to what is called 'aspirational marketing' where the message is if you buy this you will be cool, or if you don't you won't.
Grooming.
The objection to the marketing we see every day in the Tube system is a genuine concern. Is your body 'beach ready'?
Seduction and Education : role reversals in an Institutional setting.
The original meaning of the word seduction is to 'lead away from'... Trump seduced millions. Farage seduced Millions. Blair seduced millions.
In an ironic contrast 'educare' the root of 'Education' means 'to be present at the birth of', as in the role of a good mid wife.
The healthy midwife does not alter the child's psyche. Education, when it is compulsory, totally alters the child's psyche. It is a seduction.
It is a seduction, bur with coercion behind it. Reward, sanction, test, failure.
Alice Miller noticed that there was no commandment, amongst the ten that Christianity acclaims, which directed folk to honour the child. A serious omission indeed, and this omission is at the heart of the issues we are dealing with.
To honour the child, one must never break the child's boundaries or usurp his or her true self and autonomy.
"All is born of woman, no harm shall come to the children."
The entire structure of hierarchical power rests on the breaking of these lines, those boundaries as a normative.
Austerity cuts are hitting Women and Children across the world, as people are being groomed to accept it as necessary, by dehumanising the vulnerable, lying about the outcomes and dismissing the evidence.
This too is grooming.
ALL WAR IS CHILD ABUSE - all child abuse is war.
Examine the grooming of the British people who did not want to go to war in WWI, or the American people either for that matter.
Examine the grooming in Hitler's Germany, observe it in Japan at the same time.
Colin Powell with a vial of white powder, an authority shouting 'Boogie Man!"
We who are serious about contributing to the welfare of all our contemporaries and all our descendants must get to grips with this, at the personal, institutional and collective levels. Rapidly.
We will only find the truths in this by ruthlessly honest reflection. It cannot be explained in ways that replace it being experienced.
Our attachments and unresolved insecurities will block that.
So don't be too hard or harsh on ourselves, let us take the time to go deep, as we take action.
It is a life's work.
It is good work.
It is love in action.
And so it goes.
Corneilius
"Do what you love, it's Your Gift to Universe"
*If you like this post, if you found the themes resonant, if you agree in part, would you be kind enough to let others know about it? I would really appreciate that. You could drop a comment too, if you felt the urge. Or not. I will moderate contributions, and block any that are abusive. For obvious reasons. Thank you for reading.
