Showing posts with label trauma. Show all posts
Showing posts with label trauma. Show all posts

Trauma and Abuse Dynamics : A flow chart of sorts.

When a trauma event occurs there are possible flows or directions emerge, one direction is life enhancing, the other is life restrictive.



Resolution of trauma requires safety first. If the culture itself is unsafe, then resolution is more difficult to attain. 

Those who resolve the trauma resultant feelings and experiences have restored their natural vitality, their flow, their ability to express authentically (since they do not shut down their feelings) and consequently are better able to respond if another trauma occurs; those who do not resolve the trauma resultant feelings and experiences may be more likely to repeat the cycle of adverse control indefinitely as they become locked into behaviour patterns, many of which are un-conscious - they ought not be 'blamed' or judged for this. 

They need support, understanding, empathy and obviously safety.

The roots of the perception of nature as a 'survival struggle' emerge from this coping mechanism when it is established as a chronic dynamic, andis then  institutionalised, built into the structures of society as those who do not resolve the trauma resultant feelings and experiences WILL build that controlling psychology into whatever they create... 

Of course, it is obvious that it also serves those Institutions (Rulers) to convince others that nature is indeed a 'struggle for survival' because that is used as a justification for their behaviour..... such as 'extirpating' native societies, fighting wars, competing adversely... 

Breaking the cycle is the result of not so much as 'adopting' different behaviours (which mask the insecurity - and is to be found in the use of behaviour modification, outcome based education, punishment, religion, etc etc ); it is a matter of facing the feelings, experiences and perceptions that the trauma generates and resolving them so that one is able to respond rather than react, and that natural vitality, the 'flow' of feeling, of direct perception into the world is restored.

Thrivival and natural dynamic equilibrium converts solar energy into more abundant life processes, utilising Earth materials, to build more topsoil, more abundant life for all; 

Survival Modality seeks to coerce, to solidify and conform material reality to the self limiting perspective of those who rule (and for whom survival is always in question, in that coercion ALWAYS generates resistance) and do so for their own exclusive perceived needs - which are to to maintain control, to keep the feelings at bay.... yet, by ignoring the symptoms, by suppressing them, they bank more and more dysfunction and that can lead to one outcome alone; collapse. 

It might take some time, yet it is inevitable.


Kindest regards

 Corneilius

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Some thoughts on Derrick Jensen

I wrote this as a comment on a piece I came across in a blog that was describing the writers feeling of Derrick Jensen.


The fundamental result of all natural living processes is the improvement of the habitat for all life. If we are the descendants of anything, it is of bacteria. We eat, (every living cell eats..) and we men, women and children, metabolise about 20% of what we eat, we excrete the remaining 80% or so, which is then nutrient for yet more life, in that bacteria and insects eat that excreta and convert it into materials other living organisms, from bacteria to rainforests, can utilise, to make more abundant life.

That result is intentional. The web of living processes is far too complex and precise for it not to be.

Civilisation breaks that fundamental, uses 'resources' for it's own narcissistic 'needs' and leaves mostly toxic materials for which nature has, as yet, no corresponding metabolic processes, thus depriving the habitat from those materials converted into 'resources' and 'waste'. Uranium Tailings.

Trauma and abuse that go unresolved are akin to those toxic by-products of Civilisation, and unresolved trauma tends towards a trans-generational repetition of the cycles of abuse, due partly to the way the developing brain learns the neural pathways of abuse survival and partly because of the conscious actions of Power based abusers.

Jensen points out that empathy for/with the victims of abuse, for our natural selves as children born into this Civilisation (including natural living systems, the children of life) is the starting point for any real change, and that at present that empathy is lacking - mostly because those who are civilised have forgotten how to listen to natural living processes, because we have 'adjusted' or 'adapted' or 'conformed' or identified with the system of abuse by adopting abuse dynamic roles.

When we finally face the truth within ourselves, or as we do so, we become available to natural living processes as advocates and companions.

The does not mean 'going back'. We do not really know yet what that means. We might learn something of what that means if we stop the encroachment of civilisation onto those areas where ancient hunter gatherer societies live as and equal part of the habitat, not on it or even in it (both of which imply some sense of separateness).

We do know that empathy is learned and developed in the womb and as infants, and throughout childhood, and that those learnings are 'written' into the forming 'hardwired' neural pathways and networks, not only in the brain, but throughout the body. We do know that empathy is a superior long-term thrivival 'strategy'.

What we do with that information is up to each of us.

One thing is certain; those who Rule Civilisation, and those that identify with Civilisation, will not help and will obstruct any process of re-naturing with what ever tools they can muster to defend the Civilisation upon which they believe they depend upon.

So it is up to us, to each of us, to re-naturalise our lives, and that response ability cannot be avoided without causing more harm.


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Corneilius

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The Expectations of Every Child, what Micheal Jackson lacked in his experience...

This is what Micheal Jackson missed out on as a child, him and so many others .... had he been loved, respected and cared for rather than used as a cash machine, a performing cash cow, he might have lived a happier, more centered life - and one happy childs life is worth far more than the millions of records, millions of docile happy fans, millions of dollars, the pomp and narcissism of Arena Pop Music .....

Yes, his music was good, and it is also true that he did not make it all himself - he had the best in the business to assist him - from studio session musos, to producers, marketers, record companies (all of whom made a fortune from this living cash cow) and so on.....

And none of that makes up for the abuse he suffered as a child....

A fitting memoriam would be to expose the full extent of child abuse in our culture so as to ensure such abuse is extremely rare rather than fairly common.

But the fans, they want the music and none of the responsibility.. and the record companies and promoters, they want more cash....

here's my song,

The Expectations of Every Child

The expectations of every child
To be held in love, all the time
To know safety with every touch
These are the ways we need, it's not so much...

These are the gifts,that life on earth is meant to bring

The expectations of every child,
Acceptance, gentle guidance with a smile,
Honest answers to their questions of life,
Space to grow, fully assured and bright.

The expectations of every child,
To find a safe place to learn in good time
So that the child knows and trusts the heart
Then grows the child in confidence, that is the art..

The expectation of every child,
To know the family, to feel the line
Of ancient stories, and harmonies
The child is born to know that she is free.

The expectation of every child,
To be respected all the time,
To be chosen with the highest love,
So honour the child you hold, that will be enough.....

These are the gifts that life on earth is meant to bring
Do you bring the gifts? Do we bring the gifts?



http://www.reverbnation.com/tunepak/song_1466786
Justify Full
click on the link to launch a pop-up player with this song

Share it please....

Kindest regards

Corneilius

Do what you love, it's your gift to universe



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Trauma, Society and the work we must do, all of us.

It is very important work to understand how this society, the one we (Europeans etc) have all been born into, industrial society, is built upon trauma, subtle as much as gross.

We all have two aspects to deal with in this : the personal (ones own story) and the trans personal (the institutions that are built by dysfunctional people to control other people - police, army, banks, education, prison.

Both aspects must be understood, and worked on. And especially in terms of the various movements and campaigns for change, if this work is not done, the those campaigns are de-facto limited to dealing merely with symptoms, and not root causes. This is the kind of dissent the system likes and tolerates because it does not threaten their position, merely asks them to be 'nicer'.... which they are adept at making it LOOK as if they are being 'nicer'....

Just to pass on some links for anyone who wants to follow their own research.

http://www.johntaylorgatto.com - history of education set-up and back ground on those who made it so, and their ideas

http://www.naturalchild.com/ - dedicated to promoting awareness of the natural child, and how societal misunderstanding of the natural child affects us all

http://www.alice-miller.com/index_en.php - Alice Millers, whose main work, "The Roots of Violence in Child-rearing : for your own good" is one of the best on how society treats children, the history of written child rearing texts and societal compliance.. it's a translation from German so fairly challenging to read - more recent works such as "the drama of the gifted child" and "the body never lies" are a bit easier... but all are so worth the effort...

http://www.holtgws.com/ - John Holt, author of "how children learn" and "how children fail" .... this and more on how children naturally learn ... inspired, and one of the best!

http://www.suepalmer.co.uk/ - Sue Palmer, research on children's development, on how early schooling, TV, foods, media affects children's, plenty of research from neuro-science to support her observations...blows the use of 'genetics' as a source of distress out of the water

http://www.selfishcapitalist.com/ - site for writer Oliver James, author of "Affluenza", details the psychological impacts observed in adults, which arise from early childhood, common in the industrialised world. Suggest parents of very young ought to be free of encumbrance to devote time to their children, funded by the state to avoid the depression and psychological distress common in industrialised society. Severe critic of profit/consumerism. Good research, blows the 'genetics' as a source of distress right out of the water...

http://www.davidsmail.freeuk.com/ - David Smail,probably one of the best writers on 'Power Over Other's as trhe root cause of all human dysfunction. The way power is expressed is the problem, the rest is symptom. Great essay on Thatcher are the rise of the 'new age' healing business! Lots of his work is available on-line..

That's enough to get started.... all the best m8.

The following ideas around nature are my own, in that I originated the following concepts, independent of my reading : 'nature does not do stupidity', our 'cells are wild, so are we', 'nature works, so why are we so different', we 'project our concepts and ways onto the natural world, and cannot see nature the way nature experiences self, so we are lost in a country whose language we do not know - which is why industrialised society projects it's own power structures on to nature..."everything in in nature gets what it needs to thrive, bar being eaten"... "THRIVIVAL" ... "all living creatures have the innate learning ability to learn what they need to learn to master their being and to thrive in life"...



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Corneilius

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Thugs vs Warriors

Thugs and Warriors

Warriors prevent violence, firstly by their firm presence, secondly by their focused applied might… should the genuine need arise.

Thugs act as a threat, and carry out violence as a form of ‘insurance’ for their employers and because they enjoy the power. Some like the blood.

Do our soldiers stand AROUND communities to protect them, or do they STAND AWAY, threatening violence subject to conformity with their leaders wishes?

I assume that a large percentage believe themselves to be warriors. How could it be otherwise? I know that those who send soldiers into war, especially the political leaders, understand that 'their' troops are employed as thugs. One has only to look at the results of such leadership and the ‘reasonings’ that they proffer for knowingly sending troops into harms way. And worse, those leaders know full well that it will be civilians, women and children who will bear the brunt of any fighting.

Stupid?

While so many people get worked up about 'climate change' and GET VAST MAINSTREAM MEDIA ATTENTION : (The Age Of Stupid, An Inconvenient Truth) and concurrenlty the war crimes being committed in Iraq, Afghanistan, Congo et al are pretty much unexplored by that mainstream media, are 'reported' without any real depth or analysis, I am left wondering WHY?

Who benefits from this?

How can anyone honestly expect success in the realm of 'climate change' without also addressing directly the huge investment in War that is at the core of our societies?

The fact is that we cannot change the weather, we must live with it - and that is an adaptive process. We know that climate variations are the norm for Earth - and we know that the processes we are engaged in do not, as nature does, return nutrients to the system, so that they are then ready for use by other life forms, the ones we co-habit with, the ones we are dependent upon for everything from oxygen to clean water, once we have utilised the 'strategic raw materials' and that this is the biggest single identifiable causative factor in environmental degradation. The robbery of materials from those that need them.

This and War are not being addressed by the mainstream. The solutions proposed tend towards regulation and the monetising of pollution, so that the rich can afford to pollute, the poor pay with their lives. And The War Against Terror is also seen by those in power as a ‘solution’? And large numbers of intelligent media types buy this?

The 'stupidity' is deep indeed!

It’s roots are to be found in suppressed trauma.

Suppressed trauma.

Unless one has been through the process of working ones issues when one has been harmed or abused or humiliated as a child, it's very difficult to understand why so many people seem to appear to not take responsibility for themselves ..... to explore one's pain, and identify it's source takes courage and requires great honesty and energy. With all the pressures of living in a dysfunctional society that normalises dysfunction, it is hardly surprising that few take that hard road.

One must not be too harsh on people ... and at the same time we must seek to awaken the awareness of the effects of suppressed trauma ... though that is not to say to treat lightly those who abuse, especially when the abuse is obviously causing distress....and is visible, even if ignored or justified, by the abuser.

Those who as children experience abuse tend to suppress the memories (sometimes) and feelings (nearly always) associated with that abuse in order to survive psychically ...they most often have no-one to turn to after the events....supression is a survival tactic.... thus the pain, fear and anger remain within, buried deep within. Science now supports the concept that memories are stored not just in the brain, they are stored all over our bodies and that those stored and suppressed negative memories have severe consequences for those whose bodies hold such secrets.

There are so many societal sanctions against those who open up these wounds and who seek honest resolution, (which is less about punishment than it is about healing and remorse) not to mention the dynamics within families that 'cover up' and carry on...... a facade that is endemic in our society - the mainstream media being a concrete example of this being institutionalised and normalised.... state scerets indeed!

And to open up old wounds is often terrifying for the wounded, for there's a strong sense that the opening will cause serious trouble, break families apart etc etc.... so much resistance to the most painful truths of our lives.

This is 'struggling with your demons'.....

Thus most people have to suppress the feelings associated with trauma and just get on with it..... for who will listen to their stories, who will hold them while they cry, who will hear their anger and be there for them as they work through what they must if they are to live full, open and joyous lives, not to mention bringing about fundamental changes to our society in favour of healthy living for all life.

These wounds exist, the pain exists, they do not vanish, and these hidden wounds and pains are often triggered by current non-threatening yet irritable events in peoples live eliciting often extreme over-reactions and adverse control behaviours that cause further problems for all concerned.

Suppressed Trauma as a Policy Tool.

And worst of all, Governments and Religious Hierarchies understand this and use it in a quite calculated way to divide people, to create ’demons’ for people to dump their anger onto, to hire armies and deploy them and to distract people from the abusive nature of our society. .... eg : the near constant hysteria about paedophiles in the media, whilst almost complete silence about the deaths of over 340,000 children in Iraq ... and of course elsewhere... can you now see who benefits? Do not the weapons manufacturers, the jet makers and all the suppliers of war benefit? Do not the elite wealthy families and communities benefit? In their understanding they do indeed benefit.

While I of course undertsand peoples justifiable anger, I find it horrifying to hear people say 'paedo’s should hung, castrated etc etc' and at the same time those people will happily ignore The War in raq, where over 360,000 children have been murdered, and many more maimed for life (not to mention the 500,000 childrens lives lost during the 1990s as a result of the embargo and bombing campaign carried out by UK and US Air Forces, lives which Madelaine Allbright claimed were worth the price'..) - those people must be deeply conditioned to NOT REALLY THINK, to not really feel, to take emotional blindness as normal and that is very dangerous for us all, for our society. The unthinking cruelty of such statements is standard fare in the Mainstream Media.

The cruelty of those who cannot or will not think, who were the descendants of traumatised people themselves, was all too apparent in Rwanda, Germany in the 1930s and 40s, and indeed is blatantly obvious and can be read every day in 'newspapers' such as The Sun (UK) and others like it, and somewhat more modulated in the more 'intelligent' (?) press, yet present nonetheless.

Until we face the trauma, and release the pain, as individuals and as a collective, our society will create more and more thugs to thwart and crush the few remaining warriors amongst us. Those who ignore their inner pain are often those who cause the most pain.

That history repeats itself is a well worn and threadbare trusim, one that slips off the tongue far too easily, and mostly, unexamined. That is a serious flaw that must be addressed by all those who seek to help.




Kindest regards

Corneilius

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